
Iʻm passionate about helping you move out of emotional overwhelm into a life of peace and ease.

Hi, Iʻm Havilah
I spent years trying to do everything “right”—be the good girl, the caretaker, the overachiever, the people pleaser. I checked all the boxes, held it all together, and constantly put others’ needs ahead of my own. In my relationship, I bent over backwards to avoid conflict, all while carrying an undercurrent of relentless anxiety. Eventually, I hit a breaking point and realized: it was all just too much.
What looked like strength on the outside was self-abandonment on the inside. My nervous system was fried, my boundaries were blurry, and I had no idea how to actually sit with and feel my emotions, let alone understand or work with them.
My journey began when I finally started getting honest—with myself, with my body, with my past. I set out to find answers. I learned how to sit with discomfort without spiraling, how to connect with the younger parts of me that were still running the show, and how to come home to myself with curiosity and compassion instead of criticism.
Now, I help others do the same. I teach people that lean more anxiously-attached the tools needed to recognize and regulate their emotional responses, understand the needs underlying their emotions, communicate and set boundaries without guilt, and rewrite the internal stories that keep them stuck. My work blends nervous system regulation, some parts work and inner child healing, attachment theory, and deep self-inquiry— all woven together with curiosity and compassion for the process and a whole lot of, “…yeah, being human is complex”.
I don’t believe in quick fixes or pretending everything’s fine. I believe in real, messy, liberating growth.
I’ve immersed myself for years in the tools and practices that have changed my life from the inside out. Through lived experience, embodied learning, and consistent practice, I have found my way back to my authentic self.
Learning and working with various modalities helped me understand why I reacted the way I did (without blame or judgement), how my nervous system was wired for survival (appreciating that it was trying to keep me safe), and how to reconnect with the parts of me I had long exiled or ignored (hello little me, come here and let me love you). I learned how to feel without being flooded, how to set boundaries from love, and how to meet my own needs without shame.
Now, I guide others through that same journey—out of emotional reactivity and into grounded self-leadership. My work is rooted in compassion, sovereignty, and the belief that healing isn’t about fixing ourselves—it’s about reclaiming who we’ve always been beneath all the conditioning.
If you’re ready to stop abandoning yourself and start living from your truth, you’re in the right place. Iʻm excited to meet you.
…and this is Hoku
My Golden-Aussie-Doodle sidekick. Heʻs way too smart, way too stubborn, and way too cute (so he gets away with more than he should). Heʻs usually sleeping at my feet when Iʻm working.
I can help you
Learn how to regulate your nervous system.
When your system is in survival mode, everything feels urgent and overwhelming. I’ll teach you simple, powerful tools to calm your body, create internal safety, and move through life with more choice and presence.
Integrate the parts of you that feel stuck, scared, or shut down.
Through parts work, voice dialogue, and other integrative practices, I’ll help you meet the younger, reactive, or protective parts of yourself with compassion—so they don’t have to run the show anymore.
Reclaim your voice and your inner authority.
You don’t have to keep abandoning yourself to feel connected. I’ll support you in communicating clearly, setting boundaries without guilt, and leading your life from a place of wholeness—not people-pleasing.