I help you move out of emotional overwhelm into a life of peace and ease.

A woman with long, wavy red hair and blue eyes taking a selfie by a window, with green trees and grass visible outside.

Hi, Iʻm Havilah

After years of feeling emotionally overwhelmed and completely exhausted from being stuck in what I later realized was the loop of my anxious attachment, I knew something had to shift. I got deeply honest with myself, seeking to better understand my thoughts, my emotions, and my patterns and behaviors. I read the books, listened to the podcasts, bought the courses, and sought out mentors. I spent years seeking knowledge and tools and found what I needed to calm and reprogram my nervous system, shift my thinking and behaviors, and step into my self worth. Once I did that, everything changed. I was no longer self-abandoning or seeking approval and validation, I became the version of myself that I knew was possible - confident, grounded, calm, secure.

Now, I help others do the same. If youʻre stuck and struggling, I see you. I have been there. I know the depth of that pain and confusion. Iʻm here to tell you, it doesnʻt have to be like that forever. I now live in the peace and freedom that comes from a deep sense of trust and safety - within myself and my relationship.

Awareness is a very powerful first step, but knowledge and theory alone wonʻt shift you. The work and the practices will and I can say that because Iʻve lived it. If you’re ready to stop abandoning yourself and start living from your truth, you’re in the right place. Iʻm excited to meet you.

My work is rooted in compassion, sovereignty, and the belief that healing isn’t about becoming somebody new, itʻs about reclaiming who we’ve always been beneath all the conditioning and programming.

Young black and white fluffy puppy sitting on a tiled kitchen floor, looking up at the camera.

…and this is Hoku

My Golden-Aussie-Doodle sidekick. Heʻs way too smart, way too stubborn, and way too cute (so he gets away with more than he should). Heʻs usually sleeping at my feet while Iʻm working.

I can help you

Regulate your nervous system.

When your system is in survival mode, everything feels urgent and overwhelming. I’ll teach you simple, powerful tools to understand whatʻs happening, calm your body and mind, create internal safety, and move through life with more choice and presence.

Integrate the parts of you that feel stuck, scared, or shut down.

Through parts work, voice dialogue, and other integrative practices, I’ll help you meet the younger, reactive, or protective parts of yourself with compassion—so they don’t have to run the show anymore.

Reclaim your voice and your inner authority.

You don’t have to keep abandoning yourself to feel connected. I’ll support you in communicating clearly, setting boundaries without guilt, and leading your life from a place of wholeness—not people-pleasing.