Guiding you from unconscious patterns to conscious choice.
One-on-One Coaching
If you’re ready for honest, personalized support, this is where we go deep. We’ll meet on Zoom, dig into what’s really going on under the surface, and work on tools you can use in the real world—not just in theory. By the end, you’ll feel clear on why the same old patterns keep showing up—and equipped with the tools to shift out of them.
Online, Self-Paced Courses
These courses will be your go-to space for growth on your terms—no deadlines, just powerful tools and practices you can revisit anytime.
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RECLAIM 6-Week Group Coaching
This six-week live group journey is designed to help you stop abandoning yourself and start leading from within. We’ll explore attachment theory, nervous system regulation, emotional clarity, communication tools, and real self-leadership—together, in community.
Hi, Iʻm Havilah
Iʻm here to help you drop the emotional overwhelm.
Living in anxious attachment is exhausting. Together, we’ll quiet the constant “what if” in your head, untangle the stories that make you overwork for love, and give you tools to actually feel secure without losing yourself in the process. See that photo → That’s me in a rainbow tutu and glitter, fully owning the version of me that loves to play. What part of you is waiting to show up once you’re not busy second-guessing yourself or trying to manage other peopleʻs feelings?
Overcome your obstacles
You spiral when triggered and feel out of control, unable to shift out of overwhelm
You get stuck in survival mode and don’t have the tools to regulate your nervous system in moments of stress, conflict, or big emotion.
→ Together, we’ll build your emotional regulation toolkit so you can meet intensity with clarity, not chaos.
You abandon yourself to maintain connection or avoid conflict
People-pleasing, over-giving, or going silent feels safer than speaking your truth. Setting boundaries feels like a threat to your relationships instead of a bridge to deeper self-respect.
→ I’ll help you reconnect to your inner truth, set grounded boundaries, and stay in relationship without losing yourself.
You feel frustrated that while youʻre aware of your patterns, you can’t seem to change them
Youʻve read the books, listened to the podcasts, and maybe even talked it out in therapy—but the same emotional loops and relationship dynamics keep showing up, leaving you stuck and disheartened.
→ In our work, awareness becomes embodied change—you’ll learn how to interrupt old cycles and create new, lasting patterns.
You feel disconnected from your true self—unsure what you really need and want.
Years of performing, adapting, or numbing have made it hard to hear your own inner voice. You crave clarity, sovereignty, and a deeper sense of who you are underneath all the noise.
→ I’ll guide you back to the core of who you are—so you can move through the world with authenticity, not performance.
✨ What You’ll Get Inside the Toolkit:
5 simple, powerful tools to help you pause, regulate, and respond—rather than react
Step-by-step guidance for moving through emotional triggers with more awareness and self-compassion
Nervous system practices to help you feel safer, calmer, and more in control
Reflection prompts to help you get curious about what your triggers are really trying to tell you
A deeper sense of agency in moments that used to overwhelm you
COMING SOON: Self-paced courses that help shift the patterns that keep you stuck—all on your own schedule.
Hannah
“Before this work, I was stuck in people-pleasing, totally disconnected from what I wanted or needed. I didn’t even know what it meant to feel regulated. [Your Name] helped me learn how to slow down, listen to my body, and respond instead of react. She has this way of making you feel deeply seen and safe, even when you're talking about the hard stuff. I can honestly say I feel more like me than I ever have.”
Sarah
“I came into this work feeling constantly overwhelmed and reactive. I knew I was stuck in old patterns, but I didn’t know how to shift them. This work has been life-changing. I’ve learned how to actually feel my emotions without drowning in them, and for the first time, I trust myself to handle hard moments without freaking out. This work has helped me come home to myself in a way I didn’t know was possible.”
Mary
“What I love most about Havilah is that she doesn’t try to ‘fix’ you—she guides you back to your own wisdom. Her presence is calm, compassionate, and totally nonjudgmental. I’ve done therapy before, but this felt different. More embodied. More real. I’m setting boundaries now, not from anger but from clarity. I actually feel like I have my own back.”
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